Often there is a deep-seated fear of rejection pushing condescension, as it is easier to belittle a person than to really get to know them and let them into your world, thereby risking rejection, mockery, disappointment or hurt. If you carry around such a fear, confront it and root out the reason for it.
Stop assuming that you know more than the other person. We may be expert in one small part of our field, hobby, or profession. We still don't know it all and we have a great deal to teach and learn from each another. Make encountering with a person as an opportunity to learn more, to expand your own knowledge and to gain an ally.
Be compassionate, not condescending. Condescending might serve to keep you apart from others, it can leave you lonely, ousted, and an outsider. Try compassion instead; see others for all the struggles, triumphs, achievements, and strengths that they are really made of. Remember, every person you see is a wealth of information and ideas that you haven't come across. Learn how to approach people looking to find out the hidden gem in them. Look for that unique thing in them that makes them special. You will find that you don't have to fake it.
Try something new. Do something you have never done before, something that requires you to rely on somebody else's knowledge and abilities. Let yourself trust them and keep your mind and ears wide open. It might be a hard time for you, but learning is a process of being humble and in being humble, you unlearn condescension.
Be assertive not biting. If you have long used wit as a form of undermining others, it may come as a surprise to learn that your behavior is not assertive; rather it can be outright aggressive, or a form of passive-aggression. If you are afraid that people won't respect you or listen, think again. People respect the differing views of others when they are put calmly, clearly, and with a view to discussion rather than cutting off further communications.
Be willing to change. It won't be easy letting go of the habit of condescension. You have to want to change. To help you succeed, think about the benefits that will accrue. Benefit include people liking and trusting you more, when you let the world in just a little more than you have been doing, you might be pleasantly surprised.
คำศัพท์ที่น่าสนใจ
condescending ทำตัวเหนือคนอื่นเขา
an overhaul ยกเครื่อง/เปลี่ยนนิสัยเสีย
to belittle หยาม/ดูถูกคนอื่น
thereby และดั่งนั้น
colleagues เพื่อนร่วมงาน
be expert เป็นคนเก่ง
be compassionate รู้จักชื่นชมคนอื่น
ousted คนนอกคอก
a deep-seated fear of rejection ความกลัวที่อยู่ในใจลึกๆว่าเราจะถูกทิ้ง
pushing condescension พลักดันให้ทำตัวเหนือคนอื่น
mockery เยาะเย้ย
disappointment ความผิดหวัง
to confront ผจญหน้า
root out the reason for it หาต้นเหตุว่าเกิดอะไรขึ้นและขจัดมันเสีย
to gain an ally ได้มิตรเพิ่ม
triumphs ชัยชนะ
be assertive รู้อะไรควรจะเป็นหรือไม่เป็น/อะไรควรทำหรือไม่ควรทำ
be aggressive ก่อปัญหา/หาเรื่องให้เกิดขึ้นจนได้
be humble สุภาพนอบน้อม
the benefits that will accrue ประโยชน์ที่จะเกิดขึ้นเรื่อยๆ
you might be pleasantly surprised ประหลาดใจอย่างไม่น่าเชื่อว่าจะเกิดได้
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